As one might safely conclude, this post is related to
the devices again!
Most nights, I sit on a chair beside the bed as Hans
prepares to sleep. It takes about half hour from the time his head hits the
pillow to the time he actually falls asleep! There was a time I waited
patiently by the bedside and responded to his questions while urging him to
close his eyes and go to sleep. Then one day, I realized that I could use that
half hour to do the dishes or clean up the kitchen or catch a show on TV! So, I
would tuck Hans into bed and take off; strangely enough, he did not protest at
all. It took a few days for me to find the PlayBook "sleeping" beside
him in bed; how could I have missed that?!
A 5 year old and so sneaky! I went on a rampage and
set up passwords on all the devices the kids have access to. A new rule was
created as well - all devices are to be dropped off on Sunday nights on the
side table in the big bedroom! ASid was a little offended for the lack of faith;
however the benefits far outweighed hurt feelings. I could leave Hans by
himself at bedtime without worrying about him watching a Lego Ninjago video on YouTube!
The above incident happened several weeks ago and I
didn't realize how my peace of mind had created the opposite effect in my children's
minds! Most recently, Hans wanted to know if some kids have only one parent?! I
told him that it is quite possible if the parents are not living together and
then, the kids will only have one parent at a time! Hans didn't seem to pay too
much attention to my explanation. He wanted to know what happens if a parent
dies. I told him that the other parent would take care of the kids. Then he
wanted to know what would happen if both the parents died?! Hans didn't talk
about Death in a while and it got me a little worried. We were walking home
from school that day and I instinctively reached out for his hand and assured
him that he will have his grandparents and his uncle to take care of him and
his brother if his dad and his mom were to die suddenly. All Hans said in
response was, "But what about the passwords?"
"Huh??"
"But Momley what about the passwords" and he
almost started crying!
In my mind, I went "What?" and then I got
it! So, I gently told him, "Just before I die, I will tell you the
passwords to your PlayBook and Momley's iPad!"
Hans immediately brightened and exclaimed
"YAY!!"
I didn't know whether I should cry or laugh, however I
decided to enjoy the quiet walk with my child as he looked so very happy at
the thought of getting the passwords to his favourite devices from his parents
as they breathed their last!
