Just finished watching ‘Somewhere in Queens’ and got all teary eyed. Occasionally, a movie fills me with pure joy. Today, it was this one!
Hans has been struggling with a course this semester. The teacher hasn’t been exactly supportive. As a parent, I am appalled at the insensitivity of it all. As a teacher, I am a little disappointed. Through this traumatic time, mostly for me (somehow Hans seems to be handling it better than me), I was glad to discover a ‘Student Success’ teacher. She has been a positive force, and I am hopeful for Hans … and me.
One of the few reminders I have for myself, related to the boys, is to not have any expectations from them. It does not mean I don’t expect them to do well in Life, it just means that I should let them make their mistakes (and hope that they learn from them). However, it is so hard to not get involved when someone seems to be sabotaging their self-confidence and perhaps eventually their self-esteem and motivation. Maybe I am overreacting?!
So, I am glad I watched this movie. I got to watch a parent desperately try to protect his child … but was he doing it for the child or himself?
Addendum: Hans passed the course and we have put that behind us!
Posted on Saturday, March 30, 2024
