I am almost always volunteering Craigley to pick up or
drop off acquaintances, friends and family including the boys. It is really the
only favour I ask from Craigley. I have been known to make such statements as
"If I could drive, I wouldn't need Craigley at all!". It is true that
money is important for a woman's independence; however driving provides even
more independence. So, why don't I get that driver's license along with a job?
Sigh! I am a work in progress and I will get there one of these days. That's
yet another story for another day.
Moving along...
2 days ago, ASid had an after school meeting with Sir
B to work on an ISP (Independent Study Project) that involved making a video.
That day was also a snowy and cold day with wind gusts that made it even
colder for people walking or taking the TTC. ASid did not want to postpone the
meeting to another day. He was fine with the cold. The boys' response to my
concerns about the cold weather is almost always the same, "Don't worry Momley! We are
Canadian!"...as opposed to their immigrant mother! I object to that, but I
digress.
Back to the first moment of 2016 worth writing
about...
I felt bad for ASid that he has to take the TTC after
his meeting with Sir B. So, I asked Craigley if we could boot over from Hans'
piano lesson which ends at 5:30 pm to pick up ASid at 6:30 pm. We could easily
wait around a coffee shop and it is also an opportunity to see Sir B! So, we
got to a Tim Horton's close to where the meeting was taking place and settled
ourselves in. At exactly 6:30 pm, Craigley wanted to know where ASid was?! I
decided to give him 10 extra minutes. Craigley wanted me to call and find out
what was happening. So, I did call our first born and found out that it could
take him till 7:30 pm. I was like take your time and Craigley was like we are
leaving right now! The one who drives the car is all mighty and powerful. So,
we left. Poor Sir B had the responsibility of walking ASid to the nearest TTC
station after they finished working on the ISP. ASid eventually got home a little
after 8 pm.
I felt bad for ASid who literally had a 12 hour day
with school and after school work. He is only 14. I actually apologized to him
for taking off on him. He is a good kid. He told me to not worry so much. He
actually assured me that he would ask for help if he needs it. I hope so!
An important lesson ASid got to learn is to give
himself some extra time when someone offers to pick him up. It would probably
have been better if he had said 7/7:30ish instead of 6:30 pm. Waiting requires
patience. If a parent can get tired of waiting for a child, then it is best for
the child to come up with smart solutions to work with that parent...or anyone
else for that matter!
What did I learn from this moment in my Momley life?
That I should only offer a ride to someone when I am able to drive a vehicle
and follow through! Otherwise, it is best to remain quiet. Seeking help from
someone to help someone else works best if it is an emergency situation and one
needs to dial 911. Other than that, there are no guarantees.
Here is wishing patience to all of us, and mostly for
one of us. Happy 2016 everyone!
Addendum:
Addendum:
2 days after the
first meeting with Sir B, ASid had a second meeting. I completely stayed out of
it and all went well.
On a somewhat
related note, I sometimes get this feeling that Craigley is secretly reading
this blog…or maybe it is just sheer coincidence... couple of days after the
above post, Craigley said something that could be precisely summarized as
follows: I am only good for driving people around!
...and the drama
continues...
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