Children morphing into their Parents!

I haven't written about Hans in a while. The boy has been kinda quiet. He is not looking forward to going back to school without his 3 friends!

We had the exact same situation with ASid prior to Grade 4; it was worse as the boy was being shipped off to an entirely new school where he had no friends!

As parents, all we could do then and all we can do now was/is to ensure that the friends the boys care about remain their friends no matter what. We succeeded in this endeavour with ASid. He is still friends with his SK/Grade 1 friends through 4 different school changes. At the same time, he has also cultivated new friendships.

Even though Hans has a success story for reference, he is not entirely sure about his own fate. So, we arranged for a few play dates with his 3 friends before school starts. Today was the last of the play dates and he had 2 of the 3 friends over. In preparation, Hans decided to spend some of his birthday money to buy presents for his friends. Hans has been saving this money since May so he could pool it with some Christmas cash and buy one of the items from his "dream list”. However, he was happy to indulge his friends instead.

What can I say?! I see a success story for Hans as well!!

There is a cautionary advice about marrying someone after spending some time with their parents. Apparently, children eventually become their parents. Obviously, that is a gross generalization. But I am almost always happy when I see some positive aspects of mine reflected in my children. I hold my friendships dear and my life has been better because of my friends. I hope the friendships, the boys have, last long and make them better people as well. It is not just parents who influence their children, friends become a huge part of their circle of influence. Given that, there is quite a possibility of people morphing into their friends. So I am happy to put in the time and effort to ensure a desirable morphing!