Tuesday, 5 December 2017

'Tis the season of asking!

I have always had issues with asking for anything.

The following is my mom's maternal advice to me:

If you don't ask for something, even a mom won't give it to you!

The following is Craigley's mathematical advice to me:

If you ask for something, there is a 50% chance you might get it!

It is always easier said than done.

Right now, I am in the middle of a massive asking from Hans' school community. As a Co-Chair with G, I am asking for monetary donations with a goal of raising $25K. As a partner on the Holiday Skate Team with Craigley, I am asking for charitable donations for a Special Needs school. As a Classroom Parent, I am asking for money for the teacher's gift. There seems to be no end to the asking.

But, isn't it the season of giving?! And yet, there isn't much of giving at all!!

Maybe we picked the wrong time to ask?!

The radio in Craigley's car has a station that is asking for money. The TV has commercials that are asking for money. My Inbox has email that is asking for money. It is like everywhere I turn, someone is asking for something.

It doesn't matter if it is the wrong time to ask, ask I must. It is like once one embarks on a path, there is no turning back however futile the journey maybe.

In all this asking, I have felt quite frustrated. It is almost like I am the poster child for asking at Hans' school. I am sure some of the parents probably try to avoid me even though I have never asked anyone face to face to contribute anything to the school. If anything, I take the opportunity to thank people.

Anyways, the nicest thing that happened recently was related to the $25K ask. I wanted to send a paper copy home for those parents who still like receiving paper and writing cheques. Email can be a hassle for some and online donations are looked on suspiciously still. I was told it was a waste of time and maybe even a waste of paper. But I was on the path already and I had to make sure I did everything to reach the destination even if it seems unreachable.

While I was photocopying and wondering how long it would take me to fold the paper and put it in an envelope and write something pretty on the top of it, I got help without asking. We have a temporary secretary at school. She came out of retirement just to assist our new Principal while our regular secretary was away on medical leave. Just this one fact about her is a testament to her character. She drives all the way from Bracebridge to Toronto on Monday mornings and goes back home on Friday. She doesn't have to do it, but she is doing it because someone needed her and asked her for her help.

I am so glad she decided to help out at our school. This woman is amazing. She got me the required envelopes without hassling me for how the School Council should pay for their replacement. She also told me to not be silly about writing on 190 odd envelopes. She proceeded to print out labels for me. Then, she helped me with the folding of paper and stuffing of envelopes.

I did not ask her for help. She just helped me. I am not sure if she felt sorry for me. I am not sure of any of her reasons for helping me and they don't really matter. It is how she made me feel. I felt like someone cared and the task at hand became enjoyable. Even if we get to the $25K we are asking, I will forever remember the few minutes on the way there where I got help without asking for it.

A long time ago, I read a poem titled “Someone’s mother” or something like that. In that poem the narrator helps this elderly lady and at the end, he has a hope that someone does the same for his mother. And that’s my hope as well! I want the boys to know that someone has already helped their mother and I hope they do the same for someone’s mother.
 

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