Sunday, 27 October 2019

Remembering the Little Things

Last night, my mom hosted a big family dinner. ASid wondered if he could bring 6 friends along. It was asking for a lot; however, my mom couldn't say no to her first grandchild!

ASid showed up with half the number! There was one girl and two boys, and none of them were from ASid's maternal ethnic background. So I felt the need to introduce family members and friends, and also ensure that ASid's friends understood the many rituals around food - how to eat and what goes with what! At one point in time, ASid quietly snapped at me. Apparently, he was explaining as well and I was simply repeating info that was already shared. I got a bit defensive, but I let it go.

This morning, I received a text message from ASid. It was an apology for "snapping a little"! I accepted his apology and let him know that he demonstrated "an ability to reflect on his behaviour, acknowledge a mistake and seek forgiveness". Then, I thanked him for his note.

Life is short. The little things matter!

This morning, another mom I know passed away. A few weeks ago, I mentioned her in a post. This was an amazing mother who had been battling abdominal cancer for a few years. There were days I would run into her on the way to school - I would be with Hans and she would be with her daughter who is a couple of years younger than Hans. The last time I saw her was last month. When I saw her, I knew that she didn't have much time. I am glad I had whatever little time I had with her and I am glad I got to hug her one last time.

Fortunately, I got to do something small for her and her daughter a few days later. I couldn't have done it all alone. I had people help me and they were all glad to have contributed toward the small gesture. We all got to seize a moment and run with it!

ASid and Hans are almost always kind and considerate. Still, I don't ever want them to forget to do the little things that make a huge difference! Here are three … make time to call a friend, take time to apologize, and always appreciate the ones who care and accept you for who you are!
 

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