Wednesday, 27 November 2019

On occasion, sharing information = chopping my nose

Both ASid and Hans believe that I freely share information with anyone and everyone. I believe I even mentioned it here once.

According to the boys, it hurts them more than it helps others. They haven't complained recently though; maybe they have become immune to the consequences?!

Most recently, this parent registered his son in the same hockey league as Hans'. I had provided all the details to this man. On the first day, his boy was apparently quite nervous. However, his team won over Hans' team with a 7-6 score. Hans was very kind to go to his former classmate and let him know that he played well for his first game. Last Saturday, the 2 teams met again and it was a similar result. On Monday, the other boy was apparently gloating over the win!

At the risk of coming across as petty, I felt for the first time that I shouldn't have been kind enough to share Hans' hockey league's info with that parent! The parent is great, but the child has a reputation for having a mean streak! What was I thinking?!

I do believe that my sharing information has sometimes put the boys in awkward or undesirable situations. Hans has actually endured more of it than ASid - mostly inclusive play dates that he had to host because his mom said so! I could have lied about plans but I chose to disclose information and then, ended up inviting other parents and their children.

My choices haven't been the kindest to my own children. Yet, they haven't turned out to be bitter beings. In a recent conversation with ASid, I found out that he decided to be friends with the girl who unceremoniously broke off their relationship in a text message! As a mother, I was concerned; however, I really liked the fact that ASid was able to forgive this girl and move forward positively without any animosity.

I haven't been the best parent, but the boys have turned out alright … more than alright!
 

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