20 years ago ...

Craigley and I were married on April 16, 2000. We had parents, siblings and friends attend the ceremony. We planned for a backyard event; however ended up in a room, cramped together, as it rained quite heavily that day. There is some truth to those April showers!

In the last 20 years, we had a lot happen - good times and bad times; amazing times and annoying times; times we’d live through again and times that we should definitely forget!

This post is not about Craigley and me. It is about giving some practical advice to the boys. They have their own notions about a marriage. ASid has actually expressed a desire to get married some day and have children. Hans has indicated that he is happy to be an uncle to ASid’s kids and not marry at all!

A marriage is really a lot of work. It involves a lot of adjusting.

On an aside, Smoggie once wrote to me that I make a marriage sound like a trip to the chiropractor!

Maybe I do. But I’d rather the boys start there. Marriage is not a notion I want them to take lightly. I want them to dwell on it before they jump into it. Craigley and I jumped into it. It all happened rather quickly and that’s why perhaps I mention adjustments! We were 2 strangers who had to get to know each other and make our commitment to each other work. I guess we did. We are still together after 20 years!

I wish the boys happy lives with or without that special someone. We make our choices and when they make theirs, there should be no regrets.