Sunday, 28 June 2020

A C of despair?!

First year of middle school officially wrapped up on Friday. Hans got his report card in an email. He was very particular about viewing it first and even though I received it, I let him have the pleasure or as it turned out, the displeasure! As he gave me back my phone, he warned me that I wouldn’t be happy.
 
Hans got his first C on a report card; actually there were a bunch of Cs for French. I was expecting that result and I wasn’t unhappy. Hans’ French teacher had requested a meeting with me before March Break where he expressed a concern about Hans’ lack of interest in the language. So, I was aware that the boy was struggling a bit. Both the French teacher and I came up with a plan to help Hans do better. However the pandemic interrupted that from happening. Hans never did get that chance to work with his teacher to do better.
 
I am hoping I am able to help him over the summer holidays in some way so he is prepared sufficiently to deal with a higher level of French in Grade 7.
 
A C is not really a sea of despair that Hans seems to think he has to swim through. It is more like a wake-up call. I let him know that he only has 3 more years of French and then, he can bid au revoir to it!
 
From experience, I can confidently say that most of us do better when a subject is interesting to us. However to get to the subjects we like and can effortlessly float in, we have to wade through what sometimes seem like seas of despair!
 

Saturday, 13 June 2020

The Immensely Sorrowful Pickup!

This is a sequel of sorts to The Massive Pickup! posted on March 25, 2020.
 
ASid informed me that he would need to be picked up as Mary would be leaving the country on July 1st to spend time with her parents. Financially, it made sense for the girl to visit her home country as soon as her university made the decision to continue with online classes through the Fall term.
 
What works on a financial level does not necessarily work on an emotional level. I was devastated. In a strange way, I knew I was going to miss Mary even though I only saw her all of 3 times in the last 6 months. I couldn’t believe my reaction to the news. I was sad to see ASid leave a couple of months ago; so, shouldn’t I be happy to know he is coming home?
 
I thought I would have some time to adjust to all the mixed emotions I was feeling and then, found out that Mary would be leaving on June 12th instead! What?! We had to go pickup ASid on June 7th to give Mary some time to clear out her things and pack for her trip back home. I wanted to hug the child, but couldn’t because of “social distance” etiquette. I wished her a safe trip.
 
Yesterday, when Mary was at the airport, I had to send her a note before her phone number ceased to exist.
 
I sent her a message: “You may not believe this, but I am going to miss you … I hope to see you back soon …”
 
She immediately messaged back: “I will miss you too! … Thank you! I hope to see you soon as well …”
 
I hope the kids’ relationship will survive this separation. Whether it does or not, I will be grateful for the time ASid got to spend with Mary.
 
As a parent, my fondest hope is that my children will be lucky enough to find mates who will adore them and be happy to be with them. It was a dream come true to see a brief preview of my wish become a reality!