The other day, Craigley, Hans and I attended ASid’s convocation at UofT. ASid graduated with High Distinction. It was a wonderful day. Since Craigley and I don’t see each other daily, ‘family’ gatherings such as the one mentioned are opportunities to casually talk about the boys.
Craigley was surprised that Hans was still dealing with the repercussions of selling our home and separating that happened on November 1, 2022. He felt that Hans should have gotten over it by now. I didn’t really want to argue, but I did remind him that Hans is a sensitive boy and he feels more than his dad does!
Craigley has been trying to get Hans to meet his girlfriend and the boy is not ready for this meeting. I told Hans that it is okay to not like his ‘mother’s replacement’ even if she is the nicest person on the planet. To which Hans responded that his life was like a situational comedy he really liked and then, a character changed, and it wasn’t the same anymore!
I guess he described it better than I did!
To emphasize his point, Hans shared how Craigley’s best friend’s wife would previously ask Hans about how his mother was doing; however, now she asks Craigley about how his girlfriend is doing and does not have anything to ask Hans! This is a change he has noticed, and it perhaps bothers him a bit.
I wasn’t entirely surprised at the acuity of his observations. I hope one day he is able to move forward despite the hurt.
Note: Hans often refers to himself as Ash. So, today’s post pays homage to that moniker.
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