A Pretty Face

About 4 years ago, my cousin’s daughter arrived in Toronto, with a full scholarship to a graduate studies program at York University. Until that moment, my parents had 3 grandsons and since then, they also have a granddaughter. For me too, it was an opportunity to broaden my horizons and stop being just a “boy-mom”!

So, this lovely young lady, recently graduated from the program and is currently looking for a job. I had lunch with her the other day. She let me know that she now has some time to date. She also informed me that she had already been on one date. Obviously, I was excited for her and wanted to hear all about it.

She didn’t want me to judge her in any way. She was afraid she would come across as pretentious. It turned out that she went out with someone who is an electrician. The fact that she did was a good sign, from any perspective, as her studies were in virtual reality. I mean, you never know who will end up being your soulmate. It is not what they do, but who they are!

Anyways, at the end of the date, she felt like he wasn’t her “intellectual equivalent” and that was it. This was the part she was afraid I would judge her on! But I did not. I thought it was incredibly brave of her to be so honest with me. Then, I gave her my 2 cents. Conversations are important between people - if we can’t connect at that fundamental level, all other connections don’t add up to much eventually. I mean you can only look at someone for that long!

Really, who am I to give any advice? And yet, I did. We shouldn’t be afraid to make mistakes, but we also should not be afraid to choose what works for us. I can’t imagine, but it must be unbelievably challenging to look at a pic, read a profile, and take a chance. So, why not take as many chances as one needs?

When this young woman has her entire life ahead of her, what is the rush? All the pretty faces can wait!