Since it is ASid's first year of high school and he
was really transitioning into a full-fledged teen, some of the dramatic moments
actually made sense; however, some were truly unexpected from his little
brother Hans! Here are a couple of random selections before I close the doors
on the 2015-2016 school year.
Perhaps I was adopted...a raging reflective super
short story from an 8 year old's perspective!
One fine day,
during a conversation, I said something like "no child of mine can be
selfish; I can't believe you are being so selfish" to Hans. At this point
in time, I forget the context within which those remarks were made. However, I
cannot forget Hans' response: Maybe you are not my real mom!
Hans insisted
on looking at some baby pictures of himself and me as proof that I am indeed
his mother. I refused to indulge his nonsensical claim. Part of me was amused
and part of me was crushed! I never thought he would ever question my being his
mother?! Oh well, I should have seen it coming. If he could disown his father,
the mother is not too far behind!
Perhaps you love somebody else...a deeply disturbing
accusation by an 8 year old!
This year, I was
very involved at Hans' school - I was a classroom parent, the Treasurer on the
School Council and also worked on the yearbook. It kept me super busy. I like
to help wherever possible and I cannot say NO! That's how I ended up on the
yearbook team. I am not the only parent who likes to help, there are a few
others as well. This year, we had a father join this very small group of
helpful parents. He and I did most of the work on the yearbook. This particular
parent did not like to email; he preferred to call. So, he called our home
quite a bit. We have a phone that actually announces the caller's name. Hans
must have heard it enough times before he confronted me.
"Do you
love him?" I was like "Seriously?!", but I was also laughing.
Hans kept going, "So you don't love daddy anymore?" I asked him where
he was getting this nonsense from?! "You are always on the phone with
him!" So what?! "You must have a crush on him?!" Dude, you are
8!! "Maybe a little crush?!"
I couldn't
believe the conversation. Does Hans even know the meaning of crush?! At that
point in time, even ASid piped in. He wanted to know who this guy was. So, I
had the opportunity to introduce this parent to ASid as well as reintroduce him
to Craigley and Hans at the school Fun Fair.
This is what
ASid had to say, "He looks like a regular guy!" What did he expect?
A Greek God?
It is
interesting that the boys don't seem to mind me hanging out with my "mom
friends" from drop off to pick up. But a "dad friend" is a big
threat to their family's very existence. I had to reassure the boys that for
their Momley, her boys come first! Even their dad is a distant second!
On that note, I am really taking a break from being
helpful. After 4 years of being an active School Council member at 2 different
schools, I am finally giving my helpful hands a rest. Not because the boys got
a bit insecure for a brief moment in time, but it did put everything in
perspective.
One other interesting revelation (for myself) has been
my relative ease in dealing with ASid's teen issues. On the other hand, Hans'
melodramatic issues were much more challenging to deal with. I really don't
know whether to laugh or cry some days. I usually laugh it off though and
that's how I am able to write about it! Both the boys make my life interesting
and in spite of all the craziness they bring to it, I wouldn't trade them for
all the sanity in the world.
Goodbye Grade 9 and Grade 2! It has been a blast!
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