Saturday, 21 April 2018

Reinventing Oneself

Smoggie's words written in an email a long long time ago really did take me down memory lane...

There was a time I was in love with HTML and SQL - 2 languages I could only speak with computers. I enjoyed seeing the transformation of basic text files into Web pages and loved how querying a database the right way brought up useful results.

I couldn't quite decide if I liked the front end or the back end. Then, eventually, I decided that I liked the quieter back end. When I moved to the States, I was 60% on my way to becoming a DBA. I believe Smoggie was trying to keep me on task and not forget my goals.

Shortly, after that email, I was back in Canada and back working with my best friend. Smoggie gave me back the job I quit when I moved. And then I found out that I was pregnant. Smoggie did a 180 and changed his tune to "a job is just a job" and that there are more important things in life.

He was so right. As soon as I held ASid in my arms, I knew the next 18 years were going to revolve around him. When ASid was 2, I went back to school to get my B.Ed. I wanted to have a work schedule that matched with his approaching school schedule!

I forgot all about becoming a Database Administrator!

Instead, I got qualifications to become a Teacher!

But then mostly I have been a Volunteer the last 13-14 years helping at both the boys' schools.

And I have picked up many skills. I feel like I can be anything I want to be. Even as recently as a few months ago, I was a little intimidated about venturing into the "real world" for "real work", but the fact is I have been working with people for real!

And I work really hard. I take everything I take on seriously. I make sure I come through for people and don't let them down. If by chance I do, I take personal responsibility and do not blame others!

And I have lately realized that anyone who has ever worked with me in any capacity has only benefited through the association. Obviously, the benefits have been non-monetary. The benefits have mostly been unmeasurable quantities of respect and recognition as well as undefinable feelings of a sense of accomplishment and belonging.

And not everyone value any of that! And that's OK.

I guess the lesson for the day, any day, is that everyone is dispensable. We can all be replaced in 2.2 seconds. So, how do we make ourselves temporarily indispensable in the big scheme of things?!
 

Here is my personal and sincere advice for the boys as it relates to work and workplaces:

 - Be early for anything and everything. Being on time is an expectation; exceed that by a few minutes.

- Be dependable and reliable. Be consistent.

 - Be silent and observant. Let your work speak for you!

 - Be willing to lend a helping hand regardless of who needs it. Not everyone will like you, but kill everyone with kindness; those who survive it will appreciate it!

I guess I could go on and on, but I will end with this last valuable advice (following Bambino's advice from a previous post):

 
Never be afraid to quit and reinvent yourself if you are miserable. You know yourself best. Know when to move on!
 

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