That was what my 17 year old said a few minutes ago.
2 days ago, he pretty much told me that I may be responsible for
ruining his life.
I did not agree with him then and I did not agree with him now.
ASid is going through a phase
of some sort. He is in his last semester and he has just 3 courses to complete towards
his high school diploma. Perhaps he is burnt out or perhaps he is stressed out.
We both ended up in an intense
discussion where he felt that he was pushed onto this path based on an award he
received at his Grade 6 graduation. The truth is that I was proud of him, but
never insisted he pursue the "Sciences". In fact, I was always for
French and "Canadian Bilingualism". Recently, I even asked ASid to
consider a B.Ed with French as his teachable when he was applying to programs
at various universities. We need more
male teachers at elementary level and we also need more French teachers.
The boy looked at me like I was insane. Instead, he chose Computer Engineering
and Computer Science at both Waterloo and U of T as his top 4 choices. And now,
he is not so sure! And for some reason, it was easy to blame "The
Momley"!
After sleeping on it for a couple of days and missing a day of school, ASid
is back to normal.
2 days ago, I strongly disagreed
with the boy. I reminded ASid that he has always made his own choices and I
have always supported him unconditionally. After stating that, I asked him how
I can help him feel less frustrated. He suggested that I let him continue to
explore his options. The first of which was to attend a Hackathon in Windsor
this weekend.
I do not know what to do as a parent some days.
Eventually, I have to let
ASid go. The days are numbered. For now, I might as well live and let him live.
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