On occasion, sharing information = chopping my nose

Both ASid and Hans believe that I freely share information with anyone and everyone. I believe I even mentioned it here once.

According to the boys, it hurts them more than it helps others. They haven't complained recently though; maybe they have become immune to the consequences?!

Most recently, this parent registered his son in the same hockey league as Hans'. I had provided all the details to this man. On the first day, his boy was apparently quite nervous. However, his team won over Hans' team with a 7-6 score. Hans was very kind to go to his former classmate and let him know that he played well for his first game. Last Saturday, the 2 teams met again and it was a similar result. On Monday, the other boy was apparently gloating over the win!

At the risk of coming across as petty, I felt for the first time that I shouldn't have been kind enough to share Hans' hockey league's info with that parent! The parent is great, but the child has a reputation for having a mean streak! What was I thinking?!

I do believe that my sharing information has sometimes put the boys in awkward or undesirable situations. Hans has actually endured more of it than ASid - mostly inclusive play dates that he had to host because his mom said so! I could have lied about plans but I chose to disclose information and then, ended up inviting other parents and their children.

My choices haven't been the kindest to my own children. Yet, they haven't turned out to be bitter beings. In a recent conversation with ASid, I found out that he decided to be friends with the girl who unceremoniously broke off their relationship in a text message! As a mother, I was concerned; however, I really liked the fact that ASid was able to forgive this girl and move forward positively without any animosity.

I haven't been the best parent, but the boys have turned out alright … more than alright!
 

The Dump Situation

Yesterday, my mom called me because she had a bad feeling that something was not quite right with her first grandchild. I had the same feeling as well because I had actually communicated with my firstborn and he let me know he wasn’t exactly feeling good without really divulging anything!

When too many feelings get in the way and things don’t make much sense, it is time to get to the crux of the matter.

Today, I set off on a mission of sorts with Bambino. We went to see ASid so we could be enlightened. To be honest, the boy wanted to see some family and if I could only recruit one member of the family, that would be my brother and I did.

On the way there, we speculated on a couple of reasons as to why ASid was down in the dumps. Obviously, as his mother, I had some additional info and I was right. It was a matter of the heart! I was sad and relieved at once. I felt for my boy. Then I also felt that it was a good thing as he has a lot on his plate with first year of university and he is too young to get involved with someone!

ASid’s pain was real though. Apparently, he was depressed for 3 days. Today, he was much better. It was great that he could talk about his feelings with his mother and his uncle. Bambino made him some comfort food and also, went above and beyond to unclog the one and only toilet in the boy’s residence! It turned out that all the friends that dropped in to comfort a dumped ASid decided to also take a dump in his toilet.

I guess such a tremendous show of support is worth a clogged toilet for a couple of days!

The real moral of the story is for ASid to realize that there will be heartaches galore and many opportunities to bring out the plunger; however, those are simply hurdles in life he needs to get over! While he is picking up the pieces and cleaning up the messes, hopefully he also takes the time to appreciate the people who help him get over those hurdles.

 

Collaborations and Goals

Today, I watched the first episode of Nancy Drew. At one point in my life, I had read all the Nancy Drew books published up to that point in my life! Then, I moved on to some other series. When I saw the commercials for the latest adaptation, I got all nostalgic and had to watch at least one episode!

My takeaway was unexpected. I zeroed in on the music composer for the show - Siddhartha Khosla! I have seen his name in the credits of one of my favourite shows, This is us. I already enjoy the writing for that show and lately, I started paying attention to the music as well. I realized that the music for that show adds another poignant layer to my experience as a viewer. Now, I blame both the writing and the music for the tears I shed during every single episode.

Today, I Googled Siddhartha Khosla and found out that he was roommates with Dan Fogelman during their college years. It is wonderful that they met when they did and got to collaborate later on and make magic for one viewer named Momley.

I have collaborated with a few people in my own lifetime, but the one collaboration I look forward to may never materialize. I believe it would be delightful if I ever got to work with one or both of the boys.  Hans did express a desire to collaborate a couple of years ago. I guess it could happen.

Today as well as for the last two days, I have been reflecting on my life. The recent passing away of a young mom has deeply affected me. While I am trying to find meaning in my life, I am so glad I am still able to find wonder in the world that I exist in.

On that note, I am so grateful to Phoebe Waller-Bridge for having created, written and starred in one of the best television shows I had the pleasure of watching. Even at 45, I am glad I am able to find people who inspire me. Some of them are younger than me and the one I’d like to close with is my dad - he will be 70 in 2020 and he recently received an award for the 9^th record time. Apparently, that was one of his goals before his eventual retirement!