What can I say about my dad in one post?! It is too
little space to represent him accurately. He has always been larger than life
for me. He is my strength. I am what I am because he lets me be. If I
didn’t/don’t have my dad’s support, I would be a completely different person. I
never had to ask for anything in life. My dad always knows what I need. Maybe
that’s why I am a little spoilt and a little stubborn and don’t listen to
anyone?!
But this post is
not about me.
I always want the boys to aspire to be like my dad.
Even now, he has more degrees than my brother’s and mine put together. He also
makes more money than my brother and insignificant
me combined. One of my brother’s goals in life is to reach a goal in less
time than my dad did! Good luck bro! I hope you do. My dad made it in 2
different countries. Very few people can lay a claim to such an achievement.
How can we ever get to where he is?!
More about the
man…
My dad actually always wanted to be an engineer. Due
to personal reasons, he got into a different profession. He thought I would be
the engineer in the family. I tried to do it for him, but had to have the most
difficult confession/conversation to let him know that I want to be a teacher.
He was momentarily disappointed, but advised that whatever I do, I must give it
my all and do well. I am glad that eventually my brother fulfilled his fond
wish of having an engineer in the family.
Not many children have choices given to them. Most
parents thrust their expectations, hopes and aspirations onto their children.
When I write that I want the boys to aspire to be like my dad, I don’t
necessarily mean in a materialistic way. That is only a tiny part of what the
man is! I want them to be giving and generous like him. I want them to be hard
working and focused like him. I want them to put family first no matter what. I
want them to be silly and funny like him. I want them to admit to their faults
like he does. I want them to have his ability to seek forgiveness even if it is
from his own children. The man is principled and he is tougher on himself than
anyone else.
I know I am making him sound like some GOD! But he is
the one who told me that humans created GOD or the concept of god so we could
be afraid of someone. If I were to follow his view on the concept of god, then
he definitely is not one. I am totally not afraid of him; no one is! He is as
human as they come.
My mom would
love to write a post on my dad so she can give a totally different perspective
on the man. For sure, we hold different titles and have many different
relationships in a lifetime. All of those make us who we are. Right now, this
is my perspective of my dad and I am writing honestly.
The only other time I wrote about my dad was when I
had to take a workshop on presentations many years ago. Mine was about “My Dad,
My Superman” where I recalled an incident from my childhood. When we got a
break, several of the participants came up to me and said that I made them cry
and they wanted to give their dads a shout! I guess this is my shout out to my
dad for this Father’s Day weekend. He has recently become aware of this blog,
but he doesn’t have time to read this or anything. Who has time to read my
ramblings?!
I am not sure if
the boys will ever get through any of this in the future. I wish I could *star*
some of the posts as recommended reading. If I could do that, this post would
definitely make it to that list!
Happy Father’s Day to all the wonderful fathers in my
life! It is an honour and a privilege to know you all.
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