2 Suitcases

I thought of several titles for this post and the one I chose made the most sense as I dozed off to sleep a few hours ago.

Nearly 4 years ago, when we moved, I had to take care of a lot of things. That was also when ASid decided to tell me that I better use all the Air Miles I had accumulated as they were going to expire sometime soon. Oh my goodness! ASid has this tendency to make everything seem like it is of utmost urgency. So, I decided to investigate it.

I ended up purchasing a handheld vacuum for Hans and a blender to make smoothies and finally, a set of 2 suitcases - a small carry-on and a big check-in.

Yesterday, Hans packed all his clothes in the bigger suitcase, and I realized that I hadn’t unpacked the smaller suitcase yet! And in a weirdly emotional way, I equated the suitcases to Hans and me. It felt like he was taking the “mom” suitcase and I had the “child” suitcase. Somehow, that equation comforted me.

This morning, in a few minutes, Hans and I will be leaving for McMaster in Hamilton. I am not saying I shall not cry, but I am ready to let go and let the boy fly.

Addendum:

Bambino is the best brother. He decided to come and get me from Hamilton. On our drive to Toronto, I told him how Hans couldn’t wait to give the suitcase back and how I told him to store it under the bed. As if Hans heard that conversation, I received a text message from him - The suitcase doesbt fit … I will probably brong it back. (The boy really does not want the large suitcase in his dorm room. That message with the 2 errors indicated a desperate urgency.)

So much for my “mom” suitcase equation. Well, I had a warm fuzzy feeling for at least a few hours.

We Are the Sum of Our Choices

Yesterday, I planned for 2 events - Hans’ send-off lunch and ASid’s 25^th birthday dinner. ASid was not there for Hans’ lunch and Hans was not there for ASid’s dinner.

It is happening …

Almost 4 years ago, our once family of 4 went 3 separate ways. In less than a week, Hans is moving into residence, and we will be in 4 different locations. It will never be the same again. I can plan all I want to and not get the boys to be in the same place, at the same time. And that’s okay! Life happens!

This is the perfect time to share that I recently rewatched ‘Everything Everywhere All at Once’ and it reaffirmed my belief that we are the sum of the choices we make. Each choice leads to a specific outcome. So, I hope the boys make the right choices that lead them to the right people. It is especially my fond hope for Hans who is leaving home to be on his own. 

On that note, I also want to quote from the movie; it is something a character, a daughter, tells her mother … “Small, stupid humans. It’s like our whole deal.” … that’s a profound statement on humanity. So, it is okay to make mistakes … as along as we are smart enough to learn from them!

Seychelles

Since my post about the bots on my blog, the count has surpassed 10K ‘pageviews’. I am learning the proper lingo as well. Apparently, no one is counting *visitors* anymore, they are counting pageviews by browsers, operating systems and locations. (Who are they? In my case, they happen to be Google!)

The few who know of my blog have been curious about the locations. Where are these pageviews from? It turns out that the top location is a country by the name of Seychelles. I had heard the name, and that was the extent of my knowledge. So, I decided to investigate. According to Wikipedia, Seychelles is a country in Africa with a population of 96, 762. It is a tiny nation in comparison to United States which is sitting in 2^nd place in terms of the total number of pageviews.

I don’t know what to do with all this information. So, I have decided to do something that I have never ever done on my blog - provide links to pages from an external site. I discovered visitseychelles.org and I am happy to share links to the country’s geography and history. Maybe one day, I will visit this sweet little nation that caused quite the commotion and excitement on my blog.

Thank you, Seychelles! This is for you.

Geography

History

I am endorsing you.

Addendum:

I do not understand what is happening; however, less than 24 hours later, United States is currently sitting in 1^st place and Seychelles has been dethroned. The number of pageviews for each country seem to have been “fixed” to reflect this new order! Wow!!

And I feel like I should stop paying this much attention to the bots. I do have better things to do. Having said that, this has been fascinating.

Books

Ever since I was a little girl, I wanted to live in a room with wall-to-wall bookshelves that went from floor to ceiling, and they would be filled with all the books that I have read and that I would read over and over again.

In reality, I ended up with one bookshelf in the basement of the home we sold almost 4 years ago. And it took several years to set that up. However, I started adding books to a smaller bookshelf when I started tutoring. These were books for kids - books I could read with them and books that they would be interested in reading. Then, when I got my teaching job, I also started collecting books for my classroom.

As I unpacked the boxes of books in my current home, I had to make the pantry shelf (that I couldn’t fit in my new kitchen) my third bookshelf. For the first time, in a long time, I actually flipped through the pages of some of the books I have. Each book took me back in time. And it was fun to organize them in a way that made sense to me.

Today, my friend Manda wondered if I had a copy of ‘The Great Gatsby’. I did and she came over to borrow it. While I was waiting for her, I turned the cover page and saw my name neatly written on the title page. I wasn’t sure if I bought the book for the Fall term of 1994 or the Winter term of 1995 or for the 1994-1995 academic year. It hit me that that was over 30 years ago! I turned another page and read a quotation by F. Scott Fitzgerald about writing. As I was reading it, my friend arrived. She wanted to borrow it for her 17-year-old who is enrolled in a Grade 12 English course. When she saw my name in the book, she almost felt guilty for ever asking for it.

There was a time I would buy a copy of the book to give to a person who asked to borrow my copy of that book. There was no way I would let someone else’s hands touch a book of mine. Those days are over. As a mother, a tutor and a teacher, I have been surrounded by hands that have been in questionable places and I am not sure anything can be sanitized 100%. Can I clean each page of a book with a disinfectant wipe? Does it matter to have a book in pristine condition or a book that served its purpose multiple times?

I did spend some time earlier in the day with Manda, and I mentioned the bots on my blog. She was so worried that she wanted me to send her a document with all my blog posts so she could feed that into some Artificial Intelligence app and produce a book that I could self-publish before a bot could do the very same. For all I know, that’s probably been done already. So, I told my friend that I will decide how I will tell a story when I am ready to tell that story.

At the end of the day, after she left with ‘The Great Gatsby’, I realized that I need to read it again. I need to read a whole bunch of books again.

The Next 5 Years

Today, I spent a considerable amount of time with Hans. I won’t go into all the details, but I want to share an excerpt from one of our conversations.

Hans wanted to know what I will be doing 5 years from now. A standard question that is sometimes asked in interviews - Where do you see yourself in 5 years? I was surprised and a lot of thoughts floated through my head.

 

Is this child of mine worried about me?!

Perhaps, he is simply curious?!

Do I know what I will be doing then?!

Then, I just decided to answer it as honestly as possible. I told him that I would be focussed on work for the next 3 years, and after that I may take some time off to do some writing. I also felt the need to state that I am not looking for companionship in a conventional sense. It was important for Hans to know that my life is good and not lacking in any way.

At one point, as I rambled through my response, I looked at my child and got emotional. It has just been Hans and me for nearly 4 years. I am going to miss him for sure when he leaves on the 29th, and it hit me that he is thinking about that as well in his own way. Oh, wow!

One Perspective on Artificial Intelligence

2 days later, the bot visit count is around 6K. And I am even more certain that these are indeed machines! If my last post was read by someone who is an actual person IRL, they may be inclined to leave a comment stating that they are not a bot!

In my last post, I did not elaborate on my phone conversation with Bambino. We spoke at length about the sudden interest in my blog. Bambino thinks that Artificial Intelligence needs to mimic human-like communication and what better way to do that than read all the content that is available out there in cyber space?!

I believe, based on my limited experience and perspective, that blogs are personal accounts. People share their feelings and thoughts on countless things. They are happy. They are sad. They are sensitive. They are mad. They pour their hearts out on occasion. They are negative. They are positive. The whole spectrum of human emotions is on digital display.

I am okay if a machine thinks my story is good enough to be shared. More power to it! However, I will still write a story one day about some interesting aspect of my life. And I am sure it will capture me better than a bot!

Bots on the Blog

Many moons ago, I wrote about my dear friend Smoggie perhaps creating an autobot so my blog could have visitors from all over the world, and he immediately dispelled that *myth*.

In the last 5 to 6 days, this blog has amassed around 3.77K visitors from all around the world. Although I’d like to believe they are real visitors, I was immediately reminded of the wise words shared by both Smoggie and Bambino nearly 10 years ago. It is the bots. I mentioned this to Hans, and he said something like what he said about the senior discount I received - Enjoy it! And yet, I am not enjoying it. It feels like an invasion.

A few minutes ago, I also mentioned it to Bambino in a phone conversation. He had something like this to say about it - Your book will be written by some bot before you get around to it! Then, we talked about Artificial intelligence for a while.

Although I laughed a bit about it, it still made me sad. I am happy to have 2 authentic readers than 3000 machines probing this blog for who knows what!