This morning, I witnessed a
mom doing a “countup”; she was counting 1, 2, 3…and she was doing that to get
her child to walk from their car to the school doors. They were already late
and I was wondering how high she was going to count up to?! Wouldn’t she be
better off doing a countdown?! Then, I ran into another parent who was
reminding her child that it is Friday and the child just needs to get through
one more day. This parent looks at me and says that she has never seen Hans
angry; so, it must be easy for me?! I was like my child is miserable most mornings, but it is OK. I wanted to add
that it is OK for parents to be miserable too some mornings. Any parent who
claims that they are happy every day and that their kids are on their best
behaviours every morning must provide serious proof of such claims. Seriously?!
From ASid’s time, I know a
child who was in therapy at the age of 5 or 6 because the parents went through
a divorce. The child was quite angry all the time. With Hans, who came 7 years after
ASid, I find that parents have a tendency to blame the school and the teachers
for their children’s issues. What?! Even
in cases where parents are seemingly happily married, there are still kids in
behaviour therapy sessions and/or a social worker is involved. It is a public
school and only goes up to Grade 6 or age 12. The children haven’t hit puberty yet!!
Today is the day I hit my
limit. The way I look at it, parents must get themselves to therapy. I have
observed some parents for about 4 or 5 years now. The ones that irk me the most
are the ones who believe their children are perfect and that they are perfect
parents. ‘Nuff said!! The next in
line are those who blame every teacher their children have for not
accommodating their children. Wait a
minute, who is the constant here?! A few years ago, when I was mistaken for
a nanny and hung out with the nannies, I said something not so nice about
nannies. There was a family who hired a third nanny that school year. I simply
remarked that they must have terrible luck with nannies and the nannies
literally glared at me and wondered why I would say that?! They were like don’t
you think there is something terrible with the parents?! And I apologized for
taking the parents’ side and apologized again for saying anything without knowing
both sides of the story.
On that note, I do not claim
to know everything or anything about parenting. I struggle with being a parent
as well. I am learning on the go. If I believe I figured it out for ASid and it
is going to work just as well for Hans, I am sadly mistaken. It is never that
simple. And if both the boys are ever miserable together, Craigley and I must
take a look at ourselves and figure out why?!
While I hope such a day never arrives, I must seriously contemplate on
my sitcom idea…
Sneak Peak of Pilot Episode:
A bunch of nannies are walking back together with their “charges” after
school. All of them look at this one nanny and wonder how her “charge” is so
well behaved?! She just smiles and walks away. Her “charge” looks up at her and
wonders when he is going to get his own nanny?! She looks back at him and says,
“Never! You are stuck with mommy!”
It will tentatively be titled “The Never Minder Caretaker”. This mom
goes through pretty much an entire school year mistaken for a nanny. But it
gives her a special insight into it all!
My 4 friends, whom I never
see but constantly communicate with, think I am funny. Nobody else believes
that. Most everyone else think I am way too serious. So, this is an opportunity
to work on being funny. Instead of preachy sermons, it is an opportunity to
look at life from a comic perspective!
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