Thursday, 4 January 2018

The serious "after chat"!

I made exactly 4 mental notes between 10 am and 10:30 pm yesterday. When the last of the teens left, I asked ASid if he wanted feedback then or at a later time. He chose to go with instant and timely constructive feedback. Good for him!

Mental Note #1: I let ASid know that it is his job as a host to meet and greet each one of his guests. It is also his responsibility to get their jackets and put them away, or at least, let his guests know where to put their jackets away.

Mental Note #2: ASid should not proclaim a totalitarian regime if he is not going to follow through with his threats. Actually ASid would have to ban himself for a couple of spills! The teens left their half-drunk drinks all over the place and ASid kept tripping on them. This is where I want to take several hundred Gods' names in vain! If a drink left on the floor accidentally spills over, it is most likely to do so again if it is not removed from there!!

The 10 teens are in a special program that is supposed to have some of the brightest brains in their age category! Intellectually, these kids are probably there (wherever that maybe), but they have a long way to some basic common sense! Maybe I am a tad harsh this morning, but I did have those kids including mine for a little over 12 hours...on that note...

Mental Note #3: Please stick with the time planned! I gave permission for 11 am to 7 pm. Somehow, it became 10 am to 10:30 pm! I am partially to blame as well.

Feeding teens is not an easy feat. One teen got through a 2 L bottle of Mountain Dew! They will demolish bags of chips and boxes of cookies. On top of that, they will consume hearty meals. The aforementioned are simply snacks in between meals.

Mental Note #4: ASid needs to budget for how much and for how long he is going to feed his friends when he invites them over. It is all part of the planning.

When I sat ASid down and explained to him the time and money that went into the day, he was actually shocked. He felt like he had failed miserably. But I assured him that he did not. As long as he is willing to listen to constructive feedback and learn from it, I am fine with him inviting his friends over and over again. However, I need to see improvements each time.

ASid is a great kid. He is generous and he is a good friend. He took the time to organize a gathering. He confessed that the communication part was the most challenging. His friends took their own sweet time getting back to him on most everything. He wasn't entirely sure of who was going to be there till the day before the gathering.

Given the crowd ASid had to work with, he did really well. He hosted an event where half the guests didn't want to leave. That is a good sign. A couple of them actually posted thank you notes for him in their group chat. The boy will be a fantastic host one day. These are merely first steps to getting there.

I could sleep well last night because ASid did not dismiss any of my constructive feedback. He actually acknowledged that there is room for improvement. Most importantly, he thanked his mother for supporting him through everything and putting up with him. The boy also thanked his younger brother for staying out of his way.

I think it was a wonderful day overall even with the massive cleanup we had to do after our "after chat"! At the end, it was all still worth all the trouble.
 

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