The Light in Everyone

As we left Hans’ piano lesson today, I checked my messages and saw a text from Chucky's/Junior's mom. She was wondering if Hans was free to play with her son. I looked at Hans and exclaimed that I would never have believed that one day he would be asked to play with Junior again?! 

It was literally 4 years ago that I let it be known to Junior's parents that our boys should stay away from each other. I did not want their boy anywhere near Hans. Last year, when I asked Hans to invite all the boys in his class for his 9th birthday, we included Junior. I guess that opened up the lines of communication again. Still, there was a lot of awkwardness. Today's request was literally a surprise.

When I exclaimed to Hans, he looked at me and said, “There is light in everyone”. I wondered out loud if he was Yoda or some Jedi Master speaking?!

Hans is like me. He does not forget, but he is willing to forgive. He is willing to give people in his life another chance. That is not entirely a bad trait.

It looks like Hans and Junior may play together again after 4 years. It is quite possible as children get older they also become more mature?! Whatever Hans decides, I am OK with it.

As G and I were discussing this morning, we cannot create friendships for our children. We can try and orchestrate play dates and situations, but it is best to support the friendships our children build on their own. Hopefully, the said children choose wisely and even when they don't, there is a sweet little voice in my head now reminding me that “there is light in everyone”.