It is like Judgement Day for some kids and it feels
like that for some parents too!
With ASid, I
always got/get questions asked about how I am able to produce such a stellar
child! My mom always has the best answer, "He was born that way!" To
be honest, she is absolutely right even if she answers in jest. I really did/do
nothing with the boy. He has been independent since Grade 1 when it comes to
school work. He asks for help when he needs it and I always make sure I am
there to provide the necessary support when he asks for it. It is as simple as
that!
With Hans, I
always get blamed by most everyone.
Maybe I should not be part of the School Council...I
am better off if I spent that time on my own child's progress...So, how am I
going to do things differently?...What are my plans for Hans?...
I have been
asked to reflect on my parenting with him. And I do.
How do you measure good parenting? What is good
parenting?
Hans is actually
as independent as his brother. He does his own homework with very little help
from me. His marks capture his efforts. He can be a much better student, but he
chooses not to! However, I believe Hans will get there one of these days. He takes
his time and I let him.
Hans' report
card is not spectacular by any means, but it is consistent. And as much as I
appreciate his efforts, he appreciates mine as well. He always takes the time
to let me know what a difference I make with everything I do for him
at home and at his school.
At the end of the day, only my children can judge me on
what sort of a parent I am. To the rest of them, all I have to say is
"Live and Let Live!"
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